You Were Taught to "Be Good." Not to "Be Real."
And now the cost is too high to ignore.
Smiling on the outside. Dying on the inside.
If you’ve been“the good girl,”
“the spiritual example,”
“the rock” for everyone else,
But feel like you’ve lost yourself in the process:
You're in the right place!You did everything "right."
So why does it feel so wrong?
You showed up.
You held it together.You stayed the course.
You bit your tongue when honesty felt too risky.You’ve:
• Loved with your whole heart.
•Given until there wasn’t much left.
• Kept the peace even when it cost you your clarity.
• Poured yourself into roles that asked for more than they gave back.
• Smiled when something deep down whispered, “This isn’t quite it.”
But somewhere along the way, no one taught you how to include yourself in the equation.
Instead, you learned:
“Just make it work.”
“Don’t rock the boat.”
“Good women put others first.”
“Be grateful for what you have.”And now, something’s shifting. You're waking up.
Not a crisis. Just a quiet truth that won’t stay buried.
And while it feels unfamiliar (and maybe a little terrifying)… it’s also real.Be Real?
Here's what it costs to be "good" instead of "real."
- You feel trapped in situations that look fine on the outside but feel lifeless on the inside.
- You’ve lost the ability to hear your own intuition because the guilt is louder.
- You’re anxious every time you try to set a boundary or speak your truth.
- You’re resentful but then ashamed that you feel that way.
- You start wondering, "Is this all there is?"
And you suddenly realize...
You’ve built your life around everyone else’s comfort and expectations,But you’re the one quietly falling apart.
I help women break free from silent suffering
And rebuild a life rooted in truth, not duty:
This isn't therapy.
It's not life coaching.
It’s immersive coaching for women who are ready to stop faking it
and start living from the inside out.
I offer a free insight call with zero pressure.
The only think you have to risk is getting more clarity.
This Isn't Just Burnout
It’s self-abandonment, and it’s time to come back to yourself.
There’s a part of you that knows this.
The one who doesn’t want to go to church just to keep the peace. The one who’s tired of feeling guilty for taking a nap. The one who wants to feel joy, not just relief when everyone else is okay.
You don’t need to blow up your life. You just need to stop lying about who you are and what you need.
The Story of the Invisible Heroine
She didn’t cause problems. She solved them..
She made casseroles, signed up for carpool, and kept thecalendar color-coded and the fridge stocked.
She said “Yes” when every part of her wanted to scream, “No.I can’t. I don’t want to!" But she smiled instead because saying yes was easier than having to explain.
She always kept the peace. Held the marriage together. And balanced everyone’s emotions except for her own. Not because she was weak, but because she thought that’s what strength was supposed to look like.
She was the steady one. The helper. The go-to. The emotional glue no one saw but everyone needed.
But no one ever stopped to ask how she was doing.
And maybe the hardest truth of all? She wouldn’t have known how to answer anyway.
Because when you spend your life meeting everyone else’sneeds, your own start to feel optional. Excessive. And even selfish.
So, she kept going. by Showing Up, Performing, Serving, and Smiling.
Until one day, in the quiet, something inside whispered: “There has to be more than this!”
Then, for the first time in a long time, she didn’t push it away. She didn’t pray it down. She didn’t distract it into silence.
She listened.
And that changed everything.
I’ve worked with many women who recognize themselves in this story. Some are married. Some are religious. Some are mothers. All of them were taught that being “good” meant disappearing. And every single one felt guilty for even asking the question…
"What about me?"
That question isn’t selfish. It’s sacred.And it’s where your healing begins.
My Own Story
I used to show up every Sunday.
Dressed just right. Smile fixed.And marked-up scriptures in hand like a badge
of faith and effort.I knew how to do church.
How to say the right things, bow my head at the right moments, raise my hand
with the right answers.But quietly, slowly, something started to feel… OFF.
Like I didn’t quite fit anymore.
Like I was a round peg in a square hole. A fish out of water wearing a suit and tie.I tried to silence it.
I told myself I was just tired, distracted, not spiritual enough, or maybe just ****ed up.But deep down, I knew the truth:
There was a part of me that didn’t belong there.
Not in the way I thought I should, anyway.Still, I kept showing up.
Because that’s what “good” people did.
Because that’s what I had been taught.I wasn’t lying.
I was surviving.Immersive Coaching
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No pressure.
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Just one honest conversation with someone who sees behind the smile
And gets what it’s like to lose yourself while doing everything “right.”
This is your permission slip to get curious about what you want.
To ask, “What about me?” without guilt.
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You don’t have to have answers. Just a willingness to begin.